Friday, 2 January 2015

Candaulistcpl Introduction

We (as a couple) have been involved in the Candaulism lifestyle for a few years now. It all started because my wife was extremely shy and guarded even though she is absolutely beautiful and has an amazing body.

We have been together for over 20 years and married for over 15. We are the typical opposites attract story, I am a very outgoing, social, confident and sexual person, my wife is exactly the opposite in every way, except for the sexual part that is, we will get to that.

A few years into our relationship she was still dressing in baggy clothes and making every effort to not show any of her sexuality that was bursting at the seams to get out. I would always tell her how beautiful she was, how amazing her body was and how much she turned me on but she would always respond with "You are the only one that feels that way". I spent a lot of time trying to get her to relax and open up but she was a hard nut to crack, very stubborn and stuck in her ways. In fact she would avoid having any pictures taken of her and would seldom smile in them, she would always look very uncomfortable and rigid.

I was running out of ideas, my frustration was growing and I knew that this issue would eventually cause major problems in our relationship and I wasn't willing to let that happen. I decided to do some online research into how to help her to open up. I found many posts of couples in the same situation and all of them said that they had introduced photo taking into their sex lives and that it was the catalyst for their wives finally opening up. They suggested to start taking photos while out and about during normal everyday activities, to tell her how beautiful she is and then to get her to start posing. This would get her used to the camera and comfortable in her own skin.

At the time this was all unfolding digital cameras were in their infancy, computers were very expensive and our pictures still had to be taken in for developing so this was not an option. Then something changed our lives forever . . .

I was issued a Polaroid camera through my employer and as they say "The rest is history".

I discussed with my wife the possible use of the camera and that no one would ever see the resulting photos, it came as a huge shock when she agreed. We started with very mild yet sexy photos of her relaxing on the couch and the bed, no exposure whatsoever and a lot of photos of her absolutely beautiful face of course. As the number of sessions and time went on I started to push her boundaries, we started to do some more provocative poses and introduced bathrobes, lingerie. bra and panties etc. Before we knew it she was down to her birthday suit and she was very comfortable and starting to open up.

I immediately noticed a change in her, she was starting to act differently in the way she was dressing, walking, talking, everything really. She was starting to come out of her shell, finally.

The next phase of this transformation came after we had purchased our first computer and digital camera. We were still taking sexy, mild photos from time to time as a way of injecting some fun into the bedroom. As I mentioned at the top we were complete opposites in every way except for the sexual part. She was very shy and guarded but once we were in the privacy of our bedroom and she was comfortable she turned into a sexual beast. We have always had a fantastic sex life and that continues today. At one point I suggested introducing toys into our sex life which she was very curious and interested in but still very shy and didn't like the idea of going into an adult store. After some coaxing she agreed to go to one of our local stores and check it out. We entered the store to find the typical creepy guy at the counter and a good dozen people mulling about. She was obviously very uncomfortable so I took her hand and we made our way through the store. Once we were in there for some time and she saw a few other couples doing the same she started to pick up the products and talk about them with me. We purchased our first vibrator and some lube and headed home. During our next photo shoot I suggested using her new toy which to my delight she agreed to. I have always loved to watch her masturbate and taking photos of it was a huge fantasy of mine at the time.

Now that we had a computer and a digital camera our collection of photos was growing very quickly. Before we knew it our photo sessions were becoming a regular part of our love making. We started to buy new lingerie, outfits, toys, underwear and even props like holiday related items for our photo sessions.



I was online one day and came across an amateur pornography website where people posted and commented on each others photos. We like everyone else had enjoyed mainstream pornography in magazines, movies and online but we both preferred amateur porn. I was absolutely blown away by the amount of content and involvement on this site, people were really enjoying themselves. I immediately showed the site to my wife and asked her opinion, she too found it very intriguing and interesting. I suggested that we post a few of our g rated photos and see what kind of response we get. She replied with "No one wants to see photos of me", which was the perfect response to open the door for mine "I'll bet you they do !". She agreed to post a few photos but that she had to pick them with me and she wanted to watch the replies. We went ahead and posted a few photos and watched as our thread became one of the most popular threads of the day and we received hundreds of responses, all of which were very nice and complimentary. As time went on we posted on a regular basis and our content started to include images of a more wild nature which became a huge turn on for both of us.

This experience resulted in whatever shell she had left being tossed aside as well as my realization of how much it turned me on to show my sexy wife to strangers and hear their comments.

This was when my addiction to exposing my wife began.

I was now seeing a complete transformation in how my wife carried herself. We were buying her new clothes all the time, clothes that hugged and accented her body instead of hiding it. Buying her new and varying lingerie, the more revealing the better, sheer tops that allowed a window into her amazing breasts, tights and yoga pants that showed off her amazing ass and legs. All of these would never have been worn by her prior to this. She had a strut in her step, a smile on her face and cleavage, cleavage that I had never seen but was very happy that she was now comfortable to show it to me as well as anyone else that wanted to look, which by the way is enjoyed by a lot of guys and gals. She was comfortable in her skin, confident in her appearance and enjoying life for the first time.

None of this would have been possible and who knows where we would be today if it had not been for that little Polaroid camera.

Thank you Polaroid !

Candaulism Definition

Candaulism is a sexual practice or fantasy in which a man exposes his female partner, or images of her, to other people for their voyeuristic pleasure.





The term may also be applied to the practice of undressing or otherwise exposing a female partner to others, or urging or forcing her to engage in sexual relations with a third person, such as during a swinging activity. There have also been reports of a woman's partner urging or forcing her into prostitution or pornography, such as in the case of Karen Lancaume and others. Similarly, the term may also be applied to the posting of personal images of a female partner on the Internet or urging or forcing her to wear clothing which reveals her physical attractiveness to others, such as by wearing very brief clothing, such as a microskirt, tight-fitting or see-through clothing or a low-cut top.

History of the term

The term is derived from ancient King Candaules who conceived a plot to show his unaware naked wife to his servant Gyges of Lydia. After discovering Gyges while he was watching her naked, Candaules' wife ordered him to choose between killing himself and killing her husband in order to repair the vicious mischief.
The term was first defined by Richard von Krafft-Ebing in his book: Psychopathia sexualis. Eine klinisch-forensische Studie (Stuttgart: Enke 1886).

Psychology of candaulism

Isidor Sadger hypothesized that the candaulist completely identifies with his partner's body, and deep in his mind is showing himself. Candaulism is also associated with voyeurism and exhibitionism. An alternative definition proposes it as a practice involving one person observing, often from concealment, two others having sexual relations.

Historical instances of candaulism

The case of Sir Richard Worsley, Bt, against George Bissett for "criminal conversation", that is adultery with Lady Worsley, revealed an incident in which Sir Richard had assisted Bissett to spy on Lady Worsley taking a bath.
The art collector and connoisseur Charles Saatchi has considered the influence of candaulism upon the work of Salvador Dali, citing episodes recorded by the artist's biographers in which his wife Gala was displayed to other men. (London Evening Standard 21 August 2014)
The notorious American FBI agent caught spying for the Soviet Union (later, Russia), Robert Hanssen, took explicit photographs of his wife and sent them to a friend. Later Hanssen invited his friend to clandestinely observe him having sex with his wife during his occasional visits to the Hanssen household. Initially, his friend watched through a window from outside the house. Later, Hanssen appropriated video equipment from the FBI to set up closed-circuit television to allow his friend to watch from his guest bedroom. Hanssen also posted sexually explicit stories to the Internet crafted to allow readers who knew the Hanssens to identify them, also without his wife's knowledge.

Candaulism in literature

Candaulism is a theme of A Dance to the Music of Time, the cycle of novels by Anthony Powell. A key scene in the penultimate volume Temporary Kings, is set in a Venetian palazzo under a ceiling on which Tiepolo has depicted King Candaules allowing his wife to be seen naked by Gyges. The theme of voyeurism runs through the sequence of novels including a scene in which the arch-villain, Widmerpool watches his wife with a lover.

Candaulism in films